Monday, July 5, 2010

home suh-weet home!!!




it was everything i had hoped and prayed for. and then some. if only greg had come home with us, it would have been perfect :) no, he didn't bail on us, he had to stay for business :)

everything is going soooo good! i want you to know that i gained maximum credibility when myself and six kids packed up at the airport and drove home -- i honestly think she thought "you know, i think this lady really means what she says; these brothers and sister and this house looks just like the pictures."

i am getting hugs and 'i love you' pretty much anytime i need 'em, thank you very much.

it will take awhile to settle in for all of us and realize the dream really did become a reality. i can see it in her that all she has really wanted for a long time is a family to love and a place to call home. and she got both. i am happy for all of us.

p.s. thanks mark and carol for the pics :)

Friday, July 2, 2010

what i will miss ...

* watching the continuous flow of boats up and down the pearl river.

* the amazingly old and beautiful banyan trees.

* buying adorably cute and gaudy girl shoes for only $6 USD.

* sharing the joys and trials of adoption with other adoptive moms here now.

* the flashing neon lights that decorate the buildings at night.

* ordering dinner family style and wondering if the food contains black dots or eyeballs.

* putting my heart and thoughts into a blog post.

* your words of encouragement.

* the symbolism and deep meaning behind many of the customs of abigail and sarah's homeland.

* tea with kenny.

* the ridiculousness of the hotel lifeguard nazis.

* having laundry done for us. cheaply.

* ambien :)

* lounging at the pool day and night.

* being with greg.

* the breakfast buffet.

* jumping out from behind hotel doors :)

* the 'have a nice day' chinese-style from the souvenir store workers.

* the service.

* alex and tony.

* hearing thomas called harry pottery by silly giggling girls.

adoption is a long and winding path like no other; i humbly thank the Lord for leading us to it and carrying us through it.

p.s. abigail is over-the-top excited to go 'home'. like bursting excited.

p.s.s. leaving the pool for the last time she grabbed my arm ready to "LET'S GO!" and then realized what she had done; small victory that i'll take :)

Thursday, July 1, 2010

home stretch

time is a funny thing. it feels like it was an eternity since we left home. and then i remember a sermon of rodney fitzsimmons. he described it like this -- if a bird flew from earth to pluto carrying a single grain of sand and it did this repeatedly until every grain had been flown from here to there, that would be the beginning of eternity. so putting into that perspective, we have been gone for exactly two weeks. it just seems like a couple of lifetimes :)

i pray i don't sound whiney because the good Lord knows i have not.one.single.thing to complain about --- i wish i could teleport our bodies and luggage to monrovia. i am tired thinking about what it requires to get from here to there. but it will be worth it. i am beyond thankful that none of us have been sick. and that everyone at home has not been sick. that is an answer to a gazillion prayers.

* today we took the oath at the U.S. Consulate. i got all choked up doing it. it was a culmination of a year's worth of effort and knowing that the paperwork is finally over. all except for delivering the large sealed brown envelope to US customs official in chicago. if you have ever done adoption paperwork, you understand the cry of joy and relief :)

* abigail has never been on a bike. church, swimming, and now we get to be the ones to introduce her to bicycles. yeah!

* i have yet to receive an 'i love you' or hug or any affection. greg has and i am happy for him because he certainly waited his fair share to get it from sarah. he was due to be liked first :) when abigail decides to, i will just stand there, mouth open. it will feel like a major victory, i anticipate. she is holding back with me, but that's okay. for now. she is going to be stuck with only me for 9 days until greg gets home, so maybe she will break down. or then again, maybe she won't. you guys will be the first to know when it happens....

* greg and i have both noticed that she acts very differently when we are with our guide. it is hard to describe but she absolutely changes. she isn't playful anymore. she likes to know what connie is doing. and then soon as we are back at the hotel, she is back to her old self. still have yet to figure that one out. any ideas from those who have BTDT?

* one suggestion i will throw out there for those traveling soon -- have a few things that are done between you and your child -- little rituals that will give them a sense of security and familiarity. for abigail and me, it has been two things. every night, she and sarah and i clean our faces with toner. she knows once they are in bed, i will bring them a cotton pad and then wait for them to clean their face. i know it seems like a small thing, but it is consistent and i think she likes knowing when something will happen. the other thing is a fun thing -- we have had two rooms at both hotels because of having five people (it isn't like in the US at the embassy where 7 of us pile into one room....china thinks three per room is even too many) and so the kids go back and forth between the rooms often. it has been a blessing because greg and i can trade off and it gives each of us a little break. okay, so every time i open the door to our room to let them in, she knows something crazy will happen. at first it was jumping out to scare her. the sick side of me loves jumping out and scaring people (sandy, i know what you are thinking :). then that got too predictable so i upped the ante and got more creative. but sure as rain, she is always in anticipation of what lies behind the door. to make a long point longer, create a few rituals for you and them. it helps both of you.

* i have tried to be consistent in disciplining her, sarah and thomas the same. i use the word discipline here lightly as how hard is it to act right when all you are doing is swimming and eating? you get my drift. i don't let her get away with something if sarah or thomas wouldn't. and she is testing it. she is absolutely watching to see if she can get away with more than them.

* a friend told me where to buy a Bible that was in both chinese and english. i presented it to her yesterday and last night while i was getting ready for bed, i heard her speaking cantonese. i haven't heard her talk much chinese actually. i came out and she was in bed reading her Bible aloud. it was one of the sweetest moments ever. i trust the Lord is already beginning His perfect work in her.

* tomorrow is the infamous photo shoot where all the new children from your adoption group have their picture taken on the red velvet couch on the second floor of the white swan hotel. absolute tradition for china adoption. we don't have any little babies in the group so the screaming and freaking just may be at a minimum. i bought her a traditional chinese dress and she had no idea what it was. how sad is that?

signing off. almost midnight here. tomorrow late it is hong kong or bust. only a couple more sleeps until home. i am praying that i can enjoy the remainder of this roller coaster ride and rely on His strength, not mine, to carry us back to the good ol' US of A.

love you. xoxoxox from room 2039.